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How to emotionally prepare for a divorce you know is coming

On Behalf of | May 20, 2025 | Divorce

When a divorce has been openly discussed or is quietly looming, the emotional toll can begin long before the legal process starts. You may feel like you’re grieving something that’s still technically intact. 

This can make it even harder to find clarity or peace. However, taking proactive steps to prepare emotionally can help protect your well-being and set the stage for a healthier transition. 

Acknowledge what you’re feeling—all of it

The first step in preparing emotionally is to accept and validate your feelings. Divorce often comes with emotional contradictions—you may love your partner and still know the marriage must end. Journaling can be especially helpful during this phase. Writing down your emotions helps you observe them without becoming overwhelmed. 

Stop idealizing the past

When facing a major life change, the mind can start clinging to “the good times” as a way to resist change. Nostalgia can be comforting, but it can also distort your decision-making. If you’ve reached the point where divorce feels inevitable, there’s likely a pattern of harm, disconnect or unmet needs that can’t be ignored. 

Prepare for grief—and growth

Divorce is a loss, even if you’re the one initiating it. You’re not just separating from a person but from a version of the life you once hoped for. Understanding that grief will come in waves can make the process less jarring. You might grieve: 

  • The family unit 
  • The daily routines 
  • Future dreams

At the same time, divorce is also an opportunity for growth and rebirth. 

Knowing a divorce is coming can feel like being stuck in limbo. However, you can take brave steps forward by accepting your emotions, staying grounded in truth and enlisting compassionate legal support. You don’t need to have all the answers right now. You just need to keep showing up for yourself, one step at a time.



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