For divorced or separated parents, maintaining a meaningful relationship with their children can be challenging in ways that it isn’t when a child resides under a parent’s roof 100% of the time. In Hawaii, where many families are separated by islands or even thousands of miles, virtual visitation can serve as a way to bridge time and space.
By incorporating virtual visitation terms into a custody agreement, parents can help ensure that both parties remain actively involved in their child’s life. Virtual visitation refers to the use of technology—such as video calls, instant messaging, phone calls or emails—to facilitate communication between a parent and child.
Common platforms that families use for virtual visitation purposes include Zoom, FaceTime, Caribu and WhatsApp, allowing for real-time interactions that go beyond simple phone conversations. While virtual visitation does not replace in-person parenting time, it can serve as a truly meaningful opportunity to remain connected when parents and kids are apart.
Important considerations
If you are considering adding virtual visitation to your parenting plan, it is important to establish clear guidelines to prevent misunderstandings. Consider addressing the following concerns:
- Frequency and duration – Specify how often virtual visits will occur and for how long.
- Preferred technology – Identify which platforms will be used to avoid confusion.
- Scheduling and flexibility – Set agreed-upon times for calls, with flexibility for special occasions or emergencies.
- Privacy considerations – Ensure that virtual visits remain between the parent and child, free from interference or monitoring.
With all of this said, and while virtual visitation offers many benefits, it should never replace in-person parenting time. A strong parenting plan balances physical custody with virtual communication, ensuring that both parents remain actively involved in their child’s life. If one parent refuses to allow virtual contact, legal enforcement may be necessary.
It cannot be stated enough that every family’s situation is unique. A well-crafted parenting plan personalized for a family’s distinct needs and co-parenting goals can help those affected avoid disputes. Crafting a parenting plan is a consequential effort. Seeking legal guidance can help.
