Child custody negotiations can be rather challenging events. Both parents likely have an idea of what they want to happen, and those ideas may not mesh with each other. Trying to work through those issues can lead to stress unless you take appropriate actions.
Think about what’s going on now
Living in the past is a huge mistake when you’re trying to work through child custody issues. Instead of trying to hold what happened in the past against your ex, take the time to think about how your ex treats your children. This might help you to realize that even though things didn’t work out in your relationship, they are still a good parent. Of course, this isn’t going to help anything if there was abuse of any sort against the children.
Keep the focus on what’s best for the children
When you’re thinking about the future, consider how your decisions will impact the children. The key here is that you don’t need to make decisions just to make your ex’s life more difficult. It might help you to remember that what happens to your ex can directly impact your children. For this reason, it’s likely best for you to spend your energy wishing the best for your ex so that your children can reap the benefits that come with that.
Anyone who’s going through a child custody case should ensure they know what options are open for every decision that must be made. Your attorney can help you to explore these and determine how you can best protect your children’s interests.