Practicing gratitude is something you hear a lot of people preaching. When you sit down and think about it, many of us have a long list of things we are thankful for, but it’s easy forget.

When a couple is going through a divorce, the process placed significant focus on what is lost: the house, the car, time with loved ones. It is possible however, in all of that loss, to think about what you have and what the future may bring. In fact, it will likely benefit you.

First, what is gratitude? In the context of divorce, gratitude is recognizing that good things have likely come from your relationship. If nothing else, you learned something about yourself, or someone else. Perhaps more so than that, you made new friendships or welcomed children into the world. In exchange for what you have gained, it is often possible to both accept and show kindness, even in divorce. There is evidence to suggest that practicing gratitude can benefit you.

3 benefits of gratitude

  • Improvement in mental and physical health: Carrying stress and anger takes a toll on a person, both mentally and physically. Grateful people may be less prone to ailments, experience more happiness and less depression.
  • Improves self-esteem, opening the door to new relationships: When we feel grateful, we are kind to ourselves. We also act in a way that is welcoming to others. Because of this, new relationships are more likely to arise, platonic, or otherwise.
  • Fosters resiliency: One of the best things that a person can take from a divorce is resiliency. Resiliency is a hard-earned badge of honor. It means that you have the confidence to overcome anything life throws at you. Many psychologists have found that being thankful, even in heartbreak, can build resiliency.

No one divorce is the same as another and it’s not always possible for a person to feel grateful about any component of their former relationship. When possible, however, practicing gratitude can be a key component to starting a better life for yourself.